How I Made Networking My Best Friend (Even Though It Scared Me)

Let’s be honest—networking can feel terrifying. Walking into a room full of strangers, making small talk, and trying not to spill your coffee all over your brand-new business cards? Yeah, I get it. But here’s the thing: since becoming self-employed last summer, I made a commitment to push past the fear, put on my big girl pants, and get out there.

Why? Because people buy from people. If I wanted others to know about me and what I do, I had to tell them. More than that, I needed to build connections and create a community—because self-employment can be lonely.

Trial and Error: Finding My Networking Style

In the beginning, I went all in. I attended every networking event within a 20-mile radius, from breakfast meetings at dawn (not my thing, turns out) to structured, industry-specific meetups. I tested formal vs. informal, free vs. paid, and diverse vs. niche groups. There’s a lot out there!

Through this trial and error, I refined my approach:

✔️ Plan ahead – I book networking events a month in advance to stay consistent.

✔️ Stay local – No more crack-of-dawn, cross-country treks for me.

✔️ Listen more than I talk – People remember how you make them feel, not just what you say.

✔️ Be prepared – I have a short, natural elevator pitch and always carry business cards.

Networking Is a Long Game

Now, I regularly attend three local networking groups, and something really special has started to happen—I’ve begun to form genuine friendships. The best part? I’ve met people who are happy to share their experiences and insights, and we’re all learning from each other and offering support along the way. Networking isn’t about quick wins—it’s about showing up, again and again, so people recognise and trust you. The relationships I’ve built have been invaluable, and it’s comforting to know I’m not alone on this journey.

And the best part? You don’t have to pay to play. Just be present, be genuine, and be you.

So, if networking feels scary, you’re not alone. But with time, practice, and a little strategic planning, it might just become your best friend too.